Mental Health Blog

November 29, 2021

Self-care During the Holidays

The holiday season is supposed to be a time of celebration, but for those suffering from mental illness, it can be hard to feel joy during this time. Mental illness can have a negative effect on mood, making you feel more irritable and less interested in things that used to make you happy. For the person who lives with a mental illness, this time of year can bring about feelings of loneliness and sadness as memories are remembered, and current problems seem even bigger than before.

During the next few weeks, everyone will be going out of their way to show love and appreciation for each other. But how many people will take the time to show love and appreciation for themselves?

Here are some ideas for incorporating self-care into your life during the upcoming weeks:

  • Be honest with yourself and others. Mental illness is not a choice, but recovery is possible.
  • Understand that it’s okay to need time alone to recharge and relax. Mental illness can be exhausting and overwhelming at times, but everyone needs a break every now and then.
  • If you’re feeling overwhelmed or in a rut, try engaging in activities that make you happy instead of giving into the sadness. Remind yourself how worthy you are of happiness by doing things that bring joy to your life, even if it’s just for an hour or two.
  • Make an effort to connect with others. Mental illness usually affects the people around you, so it’s important that you take time out of your day to reach out and let them know how much they mean to you. Your loved ones will appreciate the opportunity to go above and beyond for each other this holiday season.
  • Create traditions with family or friends which promote self-care, such as taking time out of every day in December to do something nice for someone else. For example, bake cookies for a friend who lives far away or send cards just because. These activities are not only fun but also serve as reminders that everyone deserves kindness during this season of great joy. One tradition which is often overlooked in favor of giving more expensive gifts is spending quality time together. This time can be spent decorating the house, enjoying a seasonal activity like apple-picking, or even just enjoying each other’s company.
  • Take care of yourself as you take care of others. Mental illness shouldn’t stop you from celebrating life and those around you. Self-care during the holidays may be crucial to feeling your best and creating lasting memories with those who matter to you most.

Holidays are a difficult time for many people struggling with mental health issues, especially depression and anxiety. You may feel alone with your challenges during the holidays, but there are a lot of people out there who want to help and have been in your shoes. Mental health isn’t just something you deal with during the holidays—it’s something many people struggle with every day, even if they don’t talk about it much. If you need help or want to share your story, reach out to someone today!

Self-care during the holidays is important because everyone deserves to feel good. Mental illness can be tough, so take time out of your days to celebrate your life and everything you’ve overcome. Remembering how far you’ve come will help remind you that there’s always light at the end of the tunnel. It might not seem like it now, but this season is about giving thanks for all that we have, even if it’s hard to see sometimes.

You’re worthy of love and joy just as much as any other person! During the holiday season especially, make sure you practice self-care—remember that mental health isn’t a competition with anyone else if they’re going through a similar struggle—it’s something personal and should be treated as such. Mental illness is nothing to be ashamed of, so always remember that you are not alone in this fight and there are people who care about your well-being and are just waiting for you to reach out.

And while it can be difficult, try not to overthink things during the holidays. Mental illness has a way of bringing up memories or reminding us of things we’d rather forget altogether. Think positive! Resist the urge to dwell on negative thoughts because it’ll only have a negative effect on your mood—don’t let mental illness win! Overcome those feelings with positivity and remind yourself why the holiday season is going to rock this year! You’ve got this—stay strong and take care of yourself during these next few months. The holidays are a time when everyone deserves to be happy, so don’t let yourself get in the way of your own happiness.

October 28, 2021

By Sean Perry, Co-Founder & President


You know how it is, right? You finally get through that day. The kids are in bed, and you’re collapsed on the couch ready to spend a little time for yourself. Maybe you’ll paint your nails or watch some TV, but as soon as your head hits the pillow you remember, “Shit, I forgot to take care of myself today.”

Taking care of yourself can be tough when you have parents at home all day. Parents need so much attention and support and it’s hard not to feel like we should focus exclusively on them first. But if we forget about our own needs, we end up feeling burned out…and then guilty because we aren’t doing enough around the house.

In the past, I’ve talked about what parents need and how to plan for care, but today we want to talk about some ways you can take care of yourself:

Take a shower. I know it seems like the most basic thing in the world, but showers are amazing! They make us feel clean and refreshed and ready to face the day (or night). If you’re feeling really daring, get in your jammies and put on a face mask while you shower. You’ll be able to relax knowing that when you get out, you’re all set for bed.

Practice self-care. This might sound weird at first but hear me out. Taking time during your day for activities that help keep your body and mind healthy is one of the best things you can do for yourself. It might be something as simple as taking a walk around the block or doing some yoga, but it’s important to carve out time in your schedule for self-care. This helps keep us at our peak ability, so we have enough energy to take care of our parents!

Make lists. I know this tip is really basic too, but lists are great! They help us remember everything that we need to do so we don’t feel overwhelmed trying to juggle all our responsibilities at once. Plus, they give us a sense of accomplishment when they’re crossed out…and ideally before they’ve turned into an unmanageable mess on the table.

Eat well. A healthy diet is one of the most basic things we can do to feel good throughout the day. It sounds simple, but when you’re exhausted or on-edge from parenting all day, it’s easy to forget that eating healthy keeps us going.

Say “no.” We all need a break every now and again and parents are no exception. It takes practice to get better at determining when we need a breather and learning how to take one…but don’t be afraid to say “no.” You won’t lose your job if you tell your boss, you can’t handle ten projects right now; in fact, they’ll probably respect you more for being honest with them than constantly pushing yourself past limits just so can meet everyone else’s needs.

Delegate. Sometimes it’s just not possible to take care of everything on our own and that doesn’t make us bad parents! If something is weighing you down too much, it’s okay to ask a partner or a friend for help. This is another important thing we can teach our kids: asking for help isn’t always a sign of weakness, sometimes it just means being rational about your ability to handle things.

I hope these tips have been helpful! They’re all basic things that add up over time…if you try them out let me know how they work for you. Send me an email at Thank you for reading!

October 6, 2021

By Sean Perry, Co-Founder & President

Strategies to Help your Children Cope with their Anxiety while Managing your Own

Parenting a child with anxiety while trying to manage your own can be an incredibly tough thing to do. You go from worrying about keeping your child safe while juggling work and other family responsibilities and the next moment you’re wondering what you did wrong because your child is having a full-blown anxiety attack in front of you.

I have been working with children for years and have been through many challenges with anxiety myself. In my opinion, there are four ways to effectively help your child cope with anxiety while managing your own anxiety:

1) Be present

2) Set limits

3) Stick to a routine

4) Be aware of how you react

Be Present

Anxiety doesn’t care if you’re having a bad day or you have a million other things to do. If your child needs you, being present is the most important thing for them right now.

If they need help breathing or want you to go on a walk with them so their hyperventilating can calm down, take a few minutes and be with them in that moment rather than telling them to sit quietly because it’s too upsetting or challenging for you.

A lot of the time, people say they don’t want to “enable” their anxious child by giving them too much attention or acting differently when they’re having an anxiety attack. But it is important to remember that everything you do (or don’t do) influences your child’s life and how they view the world. If you’re only present when they are having problems, all they learn is that mommy or daddy will only be there for them when things go wrong.

It takes time to get used to being more relaxed and in the moment with your child but it’s worth every second. It also makes life a lot easier on you because everything about not seeing the world through anxious eyes goes out the door. You can’t worry about anything besides making sure your child is safe and getting them through their tough moments.

Learn to enjoy life in real time and realize that life is not worth missing out on with your kids just because you’re trying to keep your anxiety under control. That doesn’t work anyway, anxiety always finds a way back into our lives even when we think we have it handled.

Set Limits

Anxiety doesn’t mean that your child can’t do things other children do. If they want to go play at a friend’s house, let them! It’s important for them to know you trust them and believe they are strong enough to conquer whatever fears they may have.

One of the best ways to help your child manage their anxiety and gain confidence is to give them opportunities where they can succeed. Start small and gradually increase challenges while working on staying calm yourself. I know this isn’t always possible, but it really helps if you can do this for your child.

For example, if you notice that your child’s anxiety flares up when there are a lot of people in one place or maybe they’re overwhelmed by loud noises such as fireworks shows, try to create an opportunity near these things where you encourage them to be around whatever causes their anxiety without trying to avoid it.

If you can see something like fireworks from your backyard, take your child out under the stars with a blanket and share a picnic. If you know there’s going to be a large crowd at the mall for holiday shopping, try taking your child with you there in the morning when it’s less busy so they can get their bearings and feel more comfortable before things pick up later in the day.

Stick to a Routine

Having an anxiety disorder is incredibly exhausting both physically and mentally. That doesn’t mean however that you shouldn’t try your best to stick to a routine whenever possible, especially with young anxious children (and even teenagers if this applies to you!).

For example, if your child gets very overwhelmed by change then schedule out their life as much as possible down to what time they go to bed on school nights vs weekends. It might sound strict, but the more predictable your child’s life is, the better it is for their anxiety. And sometimes our kids need more structure than we think they do!

Try to communicate with any caregivers that may be helping with things like picking your child up from school or extracurricular activities. Let them know how your child responds best to change and try your best to stick with it.

Be Aware of How You React

Anxiety can be incredibly frustrating and even embarrassing at times so it’s easy to want to push these feelings down and ignore them. But chances are, your child already knows how you feel and understands themselves a little better than you do! It’s important that they know that their anxiety isn’t something they should be ashamed of or embarrassed by, even though that may sometimes feel like the case.

When we’re anxious, we’re already feeling uncomfortable which means our reactions don’t always come out as “typical.” We may snap at our children more easily or not know why we suddenly need space from them. Anxiety doesn’t mean we don’t love our kids; it just means that sometimes we need some extra love and patience to get through these challenging moments.

Be honest with yourself and your child about what you’re feeling. If they notice a change in your behavior, try to explain why your behavior has changed so they feel less confused. In time, your child will learn how to have those hard conversations themselves but for now just being open is helpful to them and your relationship. You don’t have to put on a show for them by pretending everything is alright if it’s not, just doing the best you can will help them realize how strong their parents are and how much they care.

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